It was almost 3 years ago that I was working on a college magazine article and had the privilege of speaking to the father of a very brave girl who is no more. But I still remember what he said then. He said, " your true strength only comes out when you are really tested", and "at those times, even you'd be surprised by how strong you are". At that time , I was impressed by what he said. But today, I can finally appreciate the truth of it. of course his words were for a graver time, and a more important time. But I'm being selfish enough to use them for my own petty little woes.

Just because something happens, and lets be fair to life- we can hardly hope to control everything that happens, that doesn't mean we cannot control anything at all. Sure, you're thrown off-balance, sure it isn't ideal, sure you want to blame people, and you want everything to go your way- but guess what- it doesn't and you cant make it. So here's what you can do- you can reassess the situation and you can adapt, in fact, you can even grow at times like these. And that is because your future has still not happened, and therefore you still have some say in it.
That is point one.
Point two- love yourself.
Sure they talk about giving, and they'll tell you that takes you to heaven, and that that's the best feeling you'll ever have. They're wrong.
You cannot afford to put yourself out. Do and give only as long as you've done for yourself and given to yourself first. We can't help it- so its best that we give in to our most basic element- we are the centers of our own little universes, and if you change that you'll be sorry.
Don't underestimate this funny little universe of yours- point three
the universe does balance itself. You are only given as much joy as you deserve and no more, and you're only given as much pain as you can take and no more. So if you feel that fate just gave you the short end of the deal- its probably because you're strong enough to deal with it. So get on with it. And on your way to getting on- you'll be surprised at where all you find the strength from and the support from. More often than not it comes from the most unexpected places.

This is what Ive learnt in the very recent past- and so its been blogged. There!